How To Write Your Own Wedding Vows

Angie Tien Tran - Marriage Celebrant Melbourne
Jan 25, 2013
2 min read

Updated: Feb 14

Writing your own wedding vows can be a daunting task, filled with pressure and expectations, but it doesn't have to be as hard as it seems to be at first glance. Crafting vows that truly reflect your feelings and commitment to your partner can be a beautiful and rewarding experience. To assist you in this meaningful endeavor, I have put together a comprehensive how-to guide below for your reference:

1. Getting to know you: One of the first steps in writing personalized wedding vows is to engage in a process of self-reflection and mutual understanding. I often send a detailed getting to know you form to all my clients, where they can fill out key dates, memorable moments, and the unique qualities that attracted them to each other. This form serves as a foundation for their vows, allowing them to articulate their feelings more clearly. You can adopt a similar approach by taking some time to jot down personal anecdotes and significant milestones in your relationship. Consider what moments made you laugh, what challenges you overcame together, and how you’ve grown as a couple. This exercise will not only help you gather your thoughts but also guide you towards writing heartfelt promises that resonate with both you and your partner.

2. Getting some ideas from existing sample vows: Another effective method to inspire your own vows is to explore existing samples. Whether you prefer traditional vows that have stood the test of time or more modern, creative expressions of love, there is a wealth of examples available. Reading through various styles can spark ideas about the tone and content you wish to convey. Pay attention to the elements that resonate with you—perhaps it’s a specific phrase, a sentiment that mirrors your feelings, or a structure that you find appealing. You might even consider blending elements from different vows to create something uniquely yours. This process of exploration can help you articulate your promises in a way that feels authentic and meaningful, ensuring that your vows capture the essence of your relationship.